I’ve been following Holly Jackson from her debut as a columnist on The Lingerie Addict (I’ll include the link once I find it) through the development of her own great blog for full-busted women, The Full Figured Chest. If you’ve spent any time on her blog, you’ve probably developed a giant wish list from the gorgeous lingerie options that she finds for us. In her latest post, “What Lingerie Has Done for Me“, Holly writes, “I still can’t claim to have a fantastic sense of fashion when it comes to my outerwear choices, but I’m hoping one day it will catch up with my underwear choices.” Today she documents her first steps toward making that happen.
A few weeks ago, I threw out all of my jeans. My last three pairs didn’t fit well and finally ripped, and I was faced with the horrifying prospect of going out and finding jeans all over again. I decided to start my wardrobe over, with a focus on flattering clothes that fit me and emphasized my curves. I’ve always been a jeans and t-shirt kind of person, but jeans generally just make me look short, fat, and dumpy.
Since this is going to be a series, let’s start with the basics. I’m 5’4″, a size 12/14, and I’m currently hovering somewhere around 175 pounds. I’d love to lose another 40 to 50 pounds over the next year or so, and I’ve been experimenting (read: trying to curb my cheese addiction and to exercise more) with ways to do so that work for me. I’m currently a 32HH/J in most bra brands. I know lots of women choose to wait until the end of weight loss to buy new clothes, but I’ve decided to learn how to dress myself better now instead of waiting for a goal that still seems very far away in my mind.
Lots of women out there are built like me, and there isn’t a lot of information out there on how to dress yourself. It’s easy to either dress yourself in t-shirts or tents, but there are tons of clothes out there that will work with our figures. As I’m finding out, it’s just a matter of trial and error. I do most of my shopping from consignment and vintage shops, since my neighborhood is chock full of them. I like supporting local places when I can, and I love finding unique stuff.
This outfit that I wore to a cocktail party recently is a good example of that. The dress is by Norma Kamali, and I picked it up for about ten dollars in a consignment shop. It still had the tags on, and it was a size large. This was a dress that looked awful on the hanger, but has a totally different effect on a real person. I love how it cinches my waist without a belt, and I love how classic it is. It reminds me of Audrey Hepburn’s outfits in Charade, which is one of my favorite fashion movies.
My jewelry is all 60’s era runway pieces from my favorite local antique shop, and the purse is also vintage.
My stockings are by Erica M, which is a new line that has absolutely amazing designs. I managed to rip them with my heel when someone bumped into me at the party, and I’m really feeling the loss still. When I do put serious money into things, it tends to be accessories and stockings.
I feel like the first photo shows lots of progress but still has some glaring weaknesses. I have no idea what to do with my hair. I’d like to start doing more with it, but I’ve never learned anything about it. I’m pretty lost beyond putting it up in a ponytail. I’m wearing lipstick here (another new addition in the past few weeks) but I’d like a redder red that works with pale skin.
What are your tips for dressing in figure flattering ways?
I’m really excited for this series! Especially since I’ve also had to build up my wardrobe from scratch. 😉 I’m pretty jealous that you have so many local consignment store options, here most of the consignment stores are the same price as new clothes. I’d love to support local business more in terms of clothes but just can’t afford it (although I do send A LOT of money towards my local seamstress! :D) and the fit/quality is just too low for the price.
I have to say I’m pretty amazed by your dress find. It really does show off your curves well and looks great with those stockings. What a nice find for off the rack! 😀
I’ve been experimenting more and more with my hair. I can’t really help much with straight hair being that I have naturally curly/frizzy hair but I have figured out how to “bump it” (basically roll a piece on the top, pin it and then pin another layer over it to add some volume), which helps to give it more volume and looks nice with a dressy outfit.
June, I’ve been inspired by the very organized and disciplined way that you approach your wardrobe re-building. It’s actually helped me weigh the pros and cons of different items I consider . . . i.e., partly because of you, I ask myself if something is worth using up my budget on.
Thanks so much Darlene! I’ve really tried to think through my clothing choices. Slowly I’ve started to build up a small wardrobe (and have a few things coming in the post in the next couple of weeks that I can’t wait to try. 😉 ) but it’s been pretty slow going sticking to my rules (but also well-worth it!).
That’s really strange about your consignment stores, June! Ours carry both designer and non-designer stuff and generally hit a wide range of budgets. I don’t go for anything expensive since I know I’ll be changing size and that it will be worthless at some point. The stuff I am splurging on is things like vintage jewelry which will work at whatever weight.
I think that’s pretty wise. I wish I could wear more jewellery but a metal allergy makes it difficult. 🙁 We’re actually going to be in the states in the late summer so I’m hoping to hit up some of the local consignment shops then to supplement my wardrobe. Shirts/dresses normally don’t work for me but often I can find some decent bottoms at the very least! Oh, and ebay has also been a big help when it comes to bras/pants.
That dress is lovely on you Holly.
I too will be following this series with interest as I am also building up my wardrobe, although I seem to be splurging on lots of clothes at one time rather than taking it gradually. There are so many temptations now I have discovered BiuBiu
I am so tempted by Biu Biu! I’m trying to hold off until I’m at my target weight, but it’s tough. I have a porto shirt by them that I love and want to stock up. I love the new shirts that they previewed the other day, as well as the maxi dresses that they have coming out.
Oh, you definitely need to add in more BiuBiu. 😉 I’m guessing a lot of the clothes that work well for me will work on you too because you also have a pretty small underbust. Unfortunately, my BiuBiu want list just keeps growing and growing…
Excellent post. What you have conveyed is my ‘clothing’ life in a nutshell. I have limited options and I’m not really sure if there will ever be equality for a busty gals in terms of clothing. I have to try as many clothes as possible because my weight is constantly changing. I would just like to encourage other gals to keep shopping and voicing your lack of options to retailers. We’re slowing getting more attention to the ‘busty gal plight’. More fashion/clothing choices are destined to follow. Hooray for social media! If it wasn’t for blogs like these, I’d be suffering in silence.
I think trying everything really is the key, Nikki. I can’t tell where a skirt or a dress will hit me usually, so I have to try it and see. I also don’t buy anything I don’t absolutely love, even if it’s cheap.
I love what you say about how we should all just keep shopping and make our voices heard. If more women talked about full busted clothing, more retailers would listen.
You look great, Holly! Since this wiggle dress looks so good on you I would try to stick with more 50s/60s looking styles.
Hair is hard for me, too. And when I look for hairstyle examples online, I usually get distracted by prom/wedding/insanely complex hairstyles instead of more simple and utilitarian things.
Good luck rebuilding your wardrobe, and have fun!
You look great, love the dress!
An easy thing to try with your hair is a side part. It takes two minutes to do, and it can change your whole look! It looks like you have really gorgeous hair, I bet you could do a lot with it. Getting bangs/fringe is another option–it’s low maintenance but it does take ages to grow back if you don’t like them, so that is a much bigger leap.
This sounds great, if I knew how to do a side part. I do sort of want to get a dramatically different haircut, but I have no idea what to get!
I think you should invest in some large hot rollers, Holly! I have very straight hair that doesn’t really hold a curl. I used to do a lot of musical theater, and the hair stylists would always put my hair up in hot rollers before doing anything with it. After that, I started using them in my “regular life’ with fabulous results!
I roll them very high on my head, leave them in while I do my make-up, and then take them out and very lightly brush/style my hair (which usually just consists of straightening out the part and shaping the ends together). My hair ends up very voluminous and bouncy, like the hair you see in commercials you see for hair color products.
I use these jumbo rollers by Conair:
http://www.conair.com/xtreme-instant-heat-jumbo-and-super-jumbo-hot-rollers-p-684-1_14.html
Those look amazing! I may try them out. They come with instructions, right? 🙂
Haha, yes, mine did! It did take me a few weeks to figure out the most flattering way to roll them. I experimented with leaving them in for different amounts of time, rolling them in different patterns on my head, using hairspray and not, etc.
Sounds like a great series! This comes at a great time because I’m moving and I have to ruthlessly edit my wardrobe. Just last night I was trying on clothes to decide whether to keep them or trash them. There are too many items that made me go, “What was I thinking???” Maybe I should post the photos up; there are some things I wish my teenage self knew about dressing her busty body.
I’ve been reading your blog a while but just saw this. The dress looks fab but black is just not the best color for you. I hate to even say that because I’m just a smidge shorter than you and have a very hard time finding well fitting clothes for a large-busted petite, much less in colors that work for me. You’re young enough to pull off wearing black but…you might look for soft navy (Banana Republic has a great soft navy color but if a jacket fits me the skirt is a mini. Which, again, being young and with great legs, you could pull off!