I’m sure most of us have seen this meme.
Or this one.
Or this one.
They all apply to me. No matter how well it fits or how beautiful my breasts may look in it, I hate wearing a bra. The first thing I take off after my shoes is my bra. In fact my husband, son and daughters are accustomed to finding a bra on the seat of a kitchen stool, dining room chair or neatly folded and tucked under a decorative pillow on the sofa. I always do a bra check before “company” comes over.
I haven’t always been this way. I was still too self-conscious to go braless in my own home growing up, and the first time I lived with someone I was still uncomfortable. It took about three years of living together for me to feel okay walking around my home without a bra in front of my husband, but I haven’t turned back since. At this point in my life, my immediate family has seen me nurse two children for a year each, so seeing my covered breasts without a bra is no big deal.
Because I am such a “bra remover”, I’ve become curious about the effect it has had on my breasts. There are those that say not wearing a bra makes them “saggy” faster; however there are studies that report wearing a bra could increase sagging. They all found that how much your breasts sag has to do with genetics more than anything.
This has led me to ask, why do some large-busted women wear bras all day and even sleep in them? Do you experience pain or discomfort when not wearing a bra? Do you sleep in a special bra?
I always get such useful information from my readers, so I’m looking forward to your input.
I am like you, in that the bra comes off as soon as I am able to do it. However, I have never been comfortable letting them “hang loose” so to speak, so I put on a comfy sports bra – one of those cheapy racer-back styles you can get just about anywhere. It’s snug enough to keep things in place, but stretchy enough that it’s not constrictive and I’m comfortable wearing it all day if I want and even sleeping in it.
I can understand that. I’m finding out that “comfort” is relative. Thank you for your input! 🙂
I rarely wear a bra at home, but I know some women who do experience pain/discomfort without one. If someone else is more comfortable in a bra at home or in bed (I wouldn’t be!), good for them, but I find it sad that response to anyone who says, “I don’t like wearing a bra,” is often “Aren’t you afraid of sagging?” Why should we be afraid or ashamed of sagging? I even fall for it sometimes, even though I know it’s genetics. I wish people would just give up on those “studies” on bras and sagging. I don’t think they serve any purpose other than to perpetuate the strange idea that boobs *shouldn’t* sag and the only valid ones are perky and not droopy, which is preposterous. If they were on whether bras relieve actual pain, then I’d have fewer issues.
Amen! It’s something I still struggle with. With many breast related issues I find myself fighting against what society has pressured me to believe, having to acknowledge that some of it did indeed deep into my my mind and dealing with what I know to be true.
I’m pretty much a full-time bra wearer: I wear one all day and sleep in one–an old one with a band that’s too big. I’d heard an old wives tale as a young teenager that if you wear one all the time your breasts won’t get big, and young me thought I’d give it a try. Turns out, absolutely not true in the slightest. But having worn them all the time, I’m now more comfortable in one. I don’t experience pain or real discomfort when not wearing one; I’m just happier with one.
I get it.
I can’t stand to go braless, but the bra is also the first thing to come off when company isn’t around. Enter the wonder that is the maternity sleep bra. I bought them when I was pregnant and have been wearing them ever since. Unfortunately, they only come in SML so they don’t fit well, but they do keep the girls from flopping around
I wore nursing bras for about a week. After that my boobs were just completely out and baby ready
I find if I go for more than half an hour without a bra (other than lying down to sleep) I feel uncomfortable from the sweat building up where the bottom of my breast touches my abdomen. And if I move around too much I do feel a bit of strain in my back. But I don’t necessarily need a full underwire around teh house, just something that lifts them a bit.
Makes a lot of sense to me.
Amen! I’m the same. Most of the times I take my bra off as soon as I’m home. Especially in the evenings. And sometimes when I have a home-day in winter and I need to get some groceries really quickly, I leave the house without one as well. But just because I’m covered in a million layers. Hence, I think no-one will notice 🙂
I did sleep sometimes with a bra on when I was a teenager. Because I was afraid of what my classmates would say since I was the one with the biggest breasts and a lot of the other girls would sleep in their bra too. But I think they did it because they wanted to keep up the impression that they had boobs.
And still when I’m visting a friend, I’m very self-aware in the morning in my pyjamas. Usually I cover up in a big hoody. I don’t like the wobbling around other people than my immediate family and also nipples are a no-go for me.
You’re the one that agrees with me most but I love hearing your voice
If I’m upright for more than 10 minutes, I’m wearing a bra. It’s an issue of comfort. I don’t see anything improper with not wearing one but I admit that when I see a woman with large breasts and no bra, I have a similar reaction to men watching another man getting hit in the testicles.
Would NEVER go outside braless
Your comfort is more emotional than physical.
We need to know that’s ok too
It varies for me whether I go braless or not. Sometimes it is just uncomfortable for them to be freely swinging around, so I have a lot of molded-cup bras from which I have removed the underwire, or soft-cup bras (they just don’t cut it for regular wear, giving me too little support)that I will wear, even to sleep. With a solid H-cup, the only time I don’t wear a bra at home is if I am wearing a shelf-bra camisole or a nightgown with some sort of shelf bra or cups/empire band, just for the comfort.