Boob Taming or Boob Shaming?

When someone suggests that you downplay your décolletage or minimize your large chest, are they boob shaming you? I suspect “yes” would be the answer from Ella Alexander, who wrote, “Is the Décolletage Really Out of Fashion Again?

Not all of us fall into the industry’s beloved androgynous mould. […] So what are the unfortunate few of us still with unfashionable boobs supposed to do or wear?

Well, the resounding answer is hide them. Don’t let anyone catch a glimpse lest you be labelled “inappropriate”, “tacky” and “brazen”. Forget what you read about displaying your female sexuality; if you are over a C cup it makes the dinosaurs uncomfortable so the best thing for everyone is just to conceal them.

I found Alexander’s article through an Amanda de Cadenet tweet. Given that both Alexander and de Cadenet work in media and were responding to criticism of a red carpet gown for a major media event, I’m not surprised at their perspectives. Given the context, I share it!

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The more surprising “yes” comes from a Wall Street veteran– [Read more…]

A Roundup of the Best Writing about Big Busts

Surprise! Writing about large chests isn’t just for niche bloggers anymore. I’ve been catching up on mainstream media and finding writers who go beyond complaining or making fun of their big busts to offer truly helpful suggestions and fresh perspectives.

Below are my favorite finds from the past two years. I’ve also included some of the authors’ (or their subjects’) Instagram accounts for extra wardrobe inspiration, plus stated bra sizes. Of course some of the writers could use smaller bands and larger cups, but I’ll let you figure out the conversion–that’s what readers of big bust blogs do!

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Author: Erin Mayer, size 30F/FF, @erinkmayer

How to Dress a Petite, Large-Chested Frame

You never really know how something will look on you until you put it on. (Except those teensy bustier tops, you know exactly how they will look, and it won’t be good).

Busty Rules to Throw Out the Window

Apparently we all look huge and shapeless in things that aren’t skintight… except we don’t. Besides, loose-fitting pieces are comfy. I don’t need to dress like Sofia Vergara all the time just because we have a similar cup size. If you’re going for something boxy or oversized, make sure it still has a tailored fit so you don’t get lost.

Author: Dallas Thompson, @dallasbthompson
In Praise of the House Bra

It allows me to live my best life at home, unencumbered by both unruly, floppy boobs and restrictive layers of industrial boob jail. It’s the garment version of the moment a woman in a yogurt commercial takes a bite and closes her eyes in pure bliss. It is not meant to be the star of the show, to please anyone but me, or to do anything but be a comfortable, lovable workhorse.

Author: Ellie Krupnick, 34DD, @elliekrupnick
Life as a Secret Big Boob Girl [Read more…]

Demi Coverage Reading Roundup

Embrace

It’s been three weeks since I attended a screening for the documentary Embrace, and I thought I’d share my impressions here. First, if you get a chance to see it for $15 or less (some upcoming screenings in Manhattan are $35!), it’s worth it, but only if you think you can engage in conversation with the women around you and enjoy their camaraderie. Otherwise, wait for it on Netflix.

The original screening that I was helping to promote was going to have a panel discussion afterwards. It’s too bad it didn’t sell enough tickets because there was a lot to talk about. Often “body positive” has a one-dimensional feel to it, full of breathless clichés, and I like it when people dig deeper. For instance, as I walked out of the theater on September 19, I heard one woman say, “But I lost 110 pounds.” The movie only focused on the negative aspects of diet, and a Q&A session could have made room for this woman’s experience.

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Daughters in the Dressing Room

As you can guess, I (Darlene) love to talk bras and full bust issues anytime I visit a lingerie store. Sometimes the fitter is simply polite, and other times she turns out to be a recent journalism graduate who is just as passionate about the subject as I am. That’s who I met at Suzette’s Lingerie in 2014, and two years later, Shannon Thomas is finally writing a guest post for us. Shannon describes herself as a “New York City-based writer and bra specialist aiming to change lives one byline and bra strap at a time”.  (Leah will return with another great post for Off the Rack next week.)untitled-102

As a little girl, September was always one of my favorite months. The air was cooling, I could begin wearing my cute cardigans again, and I loved going back-to-school shopping with my mother. You know the usual list: perfectly sharpened Crayola colored pencils, fresh notebooks, and of course crisp clothes for the upcoming semesters. As a bra fitter, I see mothers come into my store with their daughters during back-to-school shopping as well, and I smile from the sweet nostalgia.  About half of the young ladies are in their early to mid teens getting what is their first–but certainly not last–fitting. The other half are young and still waiting for their turn. [Read more…]